People often misinterpret the words self love and narcissism because both the words speak about loving oneself. Let us differentiate the words with definition.
Narcissism: Narcissism is the pursuit of gratification of one’s idealised self image and attributes.
Do you know that narcissism is an actual state of mind and a disease? Have you ever heard about Narcissistic Personality Disorder? People with Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) are in love with a grandiose image of themselves. It involves a way of self centred arrogant thinking and behaviour. People with NPD are resistant to change their behaviour even when it causes them problems. They always tend to blame others and just demand things. Here are few symptoms of NPD so that you will be able to spot them in your circle.
Magnificent Self Importance
People with NDP have an inflated sense of their own importance and need for admiration. They believe that they are superior to others and entitles to the best of everything. They often exaggerate about their achievements. They insist on having the best of everything. They only speak for themselves and about themselves.
Highly Aggressive
Narcissists rarely admit their mistakes and lack empathy. The only thing they understand is their own needs. When challenged, the narcissist will likely fight or flight. Under the mask they are actually afraid of criticism. They will never put their shoes into others and never think how others get affected due to their behaviour.
Belittles Others
Narcissists cannot tolerate seeing other confident and popular people. They defend themselves by demeaning, bullying, insulting, or belittle-ling others. Their defense mechanism is contempt.
How to Let Go a Narcissist?
If you have such persons in your circle, you better leave the toxic relationship. It is not easy to get rid of anything, don’t fall for their fantasies as they are all fake. Focus on your own dreams and set healthy boundaries. Consider a gentle approach and be prepared for further changes in relationship. Know yourself and don’t argue with a narcissist. Make new friendships outside the narcissist's orbit. Write down the reasons why you are leaving and seek support. Don’t expect a narcissist to feel your pain.
Realise that narcissism is an unhealthy version of being in love with oneself. It is nothing wrong to love oneself, but it should not become an obsession. People can seek help from doctors to come into reality. Understand that the journey during recovery is nothing but ‘Self Love’.
Self Love: Self love means having a high regard for your own well being or happiness. It is about taking care of your needs and not sacrificing your well being for pleasing others.
Self love is essentially about taking responsibility for one’s physical, mental, and spiritual well being. It is caring for others as you care for yourself. One with self love possesses good self esteem. They realise their strengths and weaknesses and accept things without letting their ego come in between. They appreciate others for accomplishments and learn from them.
Everyone is unique with their own flaws which makes them an individual. People who love themselves in a healthy way accept their flaws and will work in order to improve themselves. They have a strong sense of empathy. They offer assistance if they can and will never humiliate others. They are incredibly supportive.
How to Nurture Self Love?
Say No to Comparison
Create your own targets to work on. Relish on your success. Know that you write your own story and it is quite different from others. Remember that comparing yourselves to others makes you feel insecure. So, stop comparing yourself to others and their success.
Forgive Yourself
It is important to forgive yourself and learn from the mistakes. Your mistakes are your lessons for your growth. Embrace the chances to learn. Learn to let go. Practice self compassion when you make mistakes.
Set Boundaries
Create your own space. Say no to interactions or meets that depletes emotionally or spiritually in your space. Cut down toxic relations. Never try to invite toxicity; it consumes you as a person.
Self Care
Yes, you read it right! Make room for healthy habits, not just physically, mentally too. Start truly caring for yourself, make a note of things about what you eat, how you spend your time, what kind of movies you watch, how you workout, etc. Allot a day in a week to refresh.
Read this article to know the difference more clearly.
Here is an article to find love that exists in you from our website.
So, it is time to put an end to negativity and give birth to positivity. Practice self love and bloom in your own way.
Written By - Sravanthi Cheerladinne
Edited By - Kashish Chadha
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