Lessons That One Can Learn From An Average Student

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18 years of my life has taught me quite a few things and I will discuss them all with you or probably just some major ones because you can just never have too many pieces of advice. I am not here to give your life advice, just some basic tips I wish someone told me growing up.

Smack Dab in the Middle!

If there was one thing, I was terrified of growing up was being average which is just a bit hilarious because I did spend most of my school life being that. I was the epitome of an average student. It’s almost funny that I turned out to be exactly what I was most afraid of being but here’s the tip that I promised you, “you are not average”.

I was truly, utterly, and undisputedly petrified of being average and remaining average for the rest of my life and no one ever challenged my thoughts to tell me otherwise and that was what scared me the most.

How do you even know you are not average? Is there some way to measure it or some person you need to compare yourself to who can assure you that you have finally crossed the threshold that detains an average person? I have no idea, but what I do know is that comparing yourself to others never helps and if there was some kind of instrument to measure it, I would have done it a long time ago so here comes the second tip “average is just a mindset”. I know I said, no life advice but just hear me out.

Tips and Tricks!!

If throughout your entire life you have been told to be the best at something and you fail to achieve that mark it hurts, it is disappointing and you start thinking that maybe just maybe I am not good at it and slowly you start accepting it and it just stings a bit more but here’s what I have learned from my life that the moment you start believing you are not good at it, from an assumption it starts becoming the truth that will conquer your life for the coming years.

You will just never be good at anything hundred per cent and that’s the truth because there will always be something more to learn, something new, and something different. I know it sounds difficult, it did to me too but I just learned the hard way that you can never be perfect.

Most of my school life was spent hiding behind the tall bodies of my classmates ensuring that I don’t get called up to the stage for prayer or anything, I was so scared of stages and hundreds of people scared the wits out of me. I loved the idea of speaking though whenever I imagined myself as a speaker in front of thousands of people it made me happy. But that’s when the difference between reality and imagination hits you hard.

What I could feel in my thoughts was not the same way I felt facing a real crowd but sometimes you just have to go for it, for what is life if not for some risks. I remember asking my teacher for the first time in many years to let me go on stage. I had gathered every ounce of courage my body could afford to manage and asked this one question that changed my entire life.

Lessons From the Learner

My entire life up to that particular moment where I believed I was just an average person for no “non-average person” is afraid of speaking or going on stage or doing anything remotely that required being near a mic but I did it anyway. I managed to ask the most dreaded question of my entire life. That day when I went on stage, I stood too close to the mic and I think I almost rendered half the crowd deaf but that didn’t matter.

I had never felt so alive in my life before, so enthralled and so fucking happy. It was the most exhilarating experience of my life and at that particular moment, I felt I could do anything I want in life. It was that exciting and after that, I became greedy. I didn’t become particularly proficient at speaking until after a lot of public speaking but every time I went on stage and spoke in front of people I started learning more and more. 

I just realized over the years that there will be people who will be better at it than me and there will be people who will not be so good but that doesn’t make me an average person. I am only average if I allow myself to be and here people are my third and last tip “don’t stop at average”.

The only person you have to compare to is your past self and every once in a while, you should look back at what you were and the efforts you put in to become what you are for celebrating yourself for the journey you took becomes immensely important.

Be Unstoppable!!

Take up something you were terrified of doing and give it your best go. Sometimes the dart might hit the board and sometimes it will not and that’s perfectly fine as long as you don’t stop trying. Just don’t stop!!!

Written By– Aayushi Kumari Singh