How to Deal With the Fear of Losing a Relationship?

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If you really love someone, you must be willing to lose them.
That is called risk through love. Love lets go. Fear holds in tightly.

We all suffer from such emotions, but it may vary at different levels. This dysfunctional mental insanity is clinging onto things, and finding some definition or a feeling of fulfillment. We relate to them and assume that this is “who I am”. These things define me and ultimately we fear of losing that identification. Even after finding someone or something that fulfills our defined criterion of happiness, it won't be for long.

The Reason Behind Fear of Losing :

The need to stand out, be special, be in control, the need for power, for attention, for more. With hidden agenda, has always a sense of "not enough yet". It's not the relationship we’re afraid of losing, but its retaining our own Self. As you lean more into it, soon you could feel the enormous surge of force moving through you, the fear, perhaps being masked by anger or hostility. 

And if, the thought of lack that love has become part of who you think you are, you will always lack experience.Rather than believing the good that is already in your life, all you see is lack. Acknowledging the good that is already in your life is the foundation for all abundance.

Whatever you think the world is holding back from you, you are withholding it from the world. You are withholding it because deep down you think you are small and that you have nothing to give.

How to Overcome the Fear That Can Destroy Your Relationship?

Remember that fear is a biological mechanism that begs us to react. But how can you react to a fear of loss if there is nothing you can do, and if everything seems to be just fine?

1. Know That It’s Quite Normal:

Remember that the fear of losing someone is normal. We all feel it from time to time, even if there is no legitimate reason. We just feel the fear because that person is so wonderful, and we love them so much, that life without them is unthinkable.

2. Stop Trying to Control Things:

We are all vulnerable to losing someone, and though it can be tough to think about, it does happen. The more you accept that you can’t control the future, the more you will relax and live in the here and now.

3. Recognize Death and Loss Is a Part of Life:

There are certain things that happen to everyone during their lifetime, and dealing with death is definitely one of those things. At some point, someone you love will pass away or otherwise leave you. This will happen, no matter what. Recognize that it is something you must deal with.

4. Do What You Can to Make the Best of It:

Spend time with that person. Make every moment with them special. Say all the things you need to say. Never let the fear of loss keep you from being as close to that person as you can possibly be.

5. Write Down Your Fears:

Now is the time to talk about what you actually feel. Put your thoughts down in a diary. By airing your worries in this format, you can vent some of your fear of losing someone and possibly work through it without going through any further against.

6. Trust That You Can Cope:

A big part of that fear of loss is worrying how you will carry on if it happens. But you are stronger than you think you are. Simply ask someone who has gone through it, and they will tell you that the strength you need is there.

7. Live In the Moment:

The truth is that life can change anytime. What is happening in your life today might be completely different tomorrow. So embrace the time you have right now, and live in the moment happily as much as you can.

8. Trust That Life Goes On:

It might feel impossible to move on when something bad happens. It might seem like life ends right there, where the loss occurs. But life does go on, time goes on, and you will go along with it. So never take it for granted.

9. Remember It Is Never Too Late:

Even if you do suffer your worst fear of losing someone you love, remember that they live on in your memories and your thoughts. Everything you do is influenced by them. You can take real comfort in that.


Written by - Vansh Pratap

Edited by - Nidhi Verma