Is 'Beauty with Brains' Really A Compliment?

 

Ladies! Who doesn't appreciate being complimented? We really adore it! When someone compliments us on something we've been feeling nervous about, our confidence skyrockets!

However, praises that are meant to impress us may often be a tremendous turn-off, even hurtful at times. "Beauty With Brains" is one such praise. Is 'Beauty with Brains' a Genuine Compliment?

Without further ado, I would answer NO! Regardless of your gender, colour, or sexual orientation. The answer is emphatical NO. You can only have one of these, according to Beauty with a Brain, and if you have both, you are an "exception." This is completely illogical.

Intelligence is objective, but beauty is subjective. This suggests that the horizon on which the two adjectives may be measured is relatively broad. A person is also much more than this.

They might have more or fewer descriptors to describe their personality. What's worse, the connotation is primarily associated with women!

When Does the Phrase Appear?

This statement is commonly used when girls exhibit intellectual characteristics. This has surprised the vast majority of people. Girls are generally not assumed to have any brains; thus, they employ the 'With Brains' simile.

Instead of smiling and thanking them for the praise, think about what they just said to you the next time they call you "Beauty with Brains." Have you ever heard a fellow guy get praised for being both gorgeous and intelligent? Isn't that correct?

If they continue to insist that it is meant as a compliment and that we are creating a mountain out of a mole, then start complimenting guys in this manner.

"Wow, you can do algebra and look good simultaneously!""How uncommon is that?" The issue here is that males are immediately presumed to be intelligent.

Women, on the other hand, are supposed to have a natural beauty. If she isn't gorgeous by society standards, she is expected to be intelligent. It is considered a major accomplishment if someone can be both.

Think about what's wrong with the term "beauty with brains" every time someone says it to you, and you grin, tuck your hair behind your ears, and blush. Women are being pigeonholed into two categories: attractive and brainy, and they are being led to believe that these features cannot coexist.

What This Does to Women's Perceptions of Themselves:

It is a proven truth that if we are told something over and over again, we tend to believe it. As a result, women who perform well in school and academics come to feel that they are unattractive.

Remember all the females in your class who had outstanding marks but always said things like, "Which boy would ever look at me?", "I'm not as gorgeous as you are," and a slew of other self-deprecating phrases? Have you ever pondered why this might happen?

Were these females regularly told that they weren't attractive? Most likely not. This slogan, which they have grown up hearing, has led them to assume that intellect come at the expense of attractiveness.

Pretty girls, on the other hand, frequently believe they are stupid. They may be confident when it comes to dressing for a party, but their confidence wanes when it comes to providing an answer in class, even if they know they are correct.

The Media's Role in This Mentality:

There are several Bollywood films, serials, and even advertising that emphasise this distinction. The heroine, who is nearly always depicted as the attractive one, is well-dressed, with pink lipstick and gorgeous hair.

The female that everyone takes notes from, on the other hand, is usually the one with unkempt hair, an odd fashion taste, and little makeup. Another noteworthy example is that women in Bollywood are frequently questioned about their educational degrees.

As if their success in their field isn't enough of a measure. People are frequently astonished to learn that actresses such as Kriti Sanon, Vidya Balan,  and Parineeti Chopra are highly educated.

People usually underestimate the brains of actresses since they are the embodiment of beauty. Have you ever heard someone question Salman Bhai's credentials? Isn't it strange?

What Should We Do About It?

While our age has been subjected to harsh and sexist terms that have caused us to doubt our abilities on numerous occasions, let us stop the trend now. Let us educate our daughters that beauty and intelligence can coexist.

Furthermore, each child is unique in their own manner. When it comes to intellect, if she can't answer arithmetic issues, she can most likely apply it in design.

There is no such thing as a beauty or intellect scale. Let us train children to defy conventional norms. Let us not convince children they can be both gorgeous and educated.

Let us tell them that they are already lovely and brilliant. Anyone who claims differently is most likely not bright enough to see genuine beauty!

Written By - Tanya C