What Is Self-Love?
Well, Self-Love is a subjective concept and varies from individual to individual. Every earthly being has a different definition of what Self-Love is to them! Moreover, Self-love means accepting your own self, and your own flaws, treating yourself with respect, being kind to yourself, and taking care of yourself even on the days when you do not feel to do so.
Some might offer this nirvana to themselves in the way of hitting the gym, taking care of their fitness and maintaining a schedule planning separate days for different things whereas others might tell themselves positive affirmations like “you’re cared for, loved and respected”. The process might sound lame at its very beginning but when one gets on the track, to begin with, there’s no looking back!
How To Sow The Seeds And Cultivate It?
“As you sow, so shall you reap”. It's not as easy as it sounds. One might struggle to maintain a bond with the inner self. Imagine you’re trying to make a bond with someone. It will be a culmination of efforts, devoting time, energy, love, care, and respect and the list is endless. The factors like devoting time, energy, and love act as the seeds you sow in order to cultivate the process of loving yourself.
Having a hard time loving yourself can stem from having troubled or abusive relationships and so much more. It is even possible that one of the causes emerges from not receiving much attention or care during the childhood years and ending up feeling worthless during adulthood. Bullying is one of the other factors that can contribute to low self-esteem. Frequent criticism from family, parents, and friends can often result in such a situation.
Unlearning negative affirmations is a slow and grinding process where one has to deal with patience and understanding. There are a few ways which can help one overcome low self-esteem:
Practice Positive Self-Talk: Every time you find yourself immersed in a pool of negative thoughts, Stop. Firstly, Breathe and forgive yourself, be kind to yourself, and start by practising positive affirmations like “I love myself”, “I am enough” and so on.
Talk to a Therapist: Talking to a mental health professional might answer your question as to what really triggers the low-self esteem which can be eventually helpful.
Low self-esteem can stem from traumatic childhood experiences and negative events around one’s environment that are not under the control of an individual.
Symptoms That Indicate Low Self-Esteem:
An individual having low Self-Esteem might find themselves trapped with the following signs:
Feeling worthless, unloved or unwanted.
Believing that one is not good at anything even when there is no such actual evidence to think so.
Frequent negative self-talk.
Feeling like a burden on everyone.
Always second guessing or doubting your own self.
Feeling like one doesn't deserve their accomplishments.
We are feeling that they don’t certainly belong where they are.
It’s important to know that It is okay to feel this way and the individual suffering from this is not to be blamed since these issues can be deep-rooted and could frequently be occurring with the individual. Try to tell the individual that you're always there for them. Knowing that saying “no” to people when you’re not okay is fine, being selfish for yourself and taking care of yourself is fine even if thousands of people point the finger at you saying it's not.
Endnote
Do what you love, focus on yourself because you are your best friend, but no other person can make it okay. Power, Strength, Determination, Love, and Effort are what you need because the inner you, need you, your support, and your love to recover from the traumatic happenings it has been through. Leave no stone unturned for it's you who can make yourself beautiful and unique in your own eyes.
Written By: Jiya Gurnani
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