Ever wondered why the word love has been given so much importance in our lives? The emotion of love has been the driving force of our lives. We often talk about finding love in our life, we are so fascinated by the idea of finding someone who would love us with all their heart. We are so much in our fascinating world that we fail to see reality.
The reality is that the path to a happy loving relationship with anyone passes from the path of self-love. This word is very easy to say but it’s of no use until and unless we realise how crucial it is in our lives. People keep saying that love is the way you are but no one actually talks about the way through which we can achieve status in our life where we are truly loving ourselves.
What is Self Love?
Let’s look at the various aspects that are involved in the equation of self-love.
Self-love is not just about loving the way you are, it’s also about reaching a level of acceptance where you can easily accept and embrace your flaws.
I read somewhere that the path of self–love passes from the path of self–hate. This means that there is always a time in our life when we feel absolutely devalued.
The society we are living in is not used to accepting mistakes, this society is used to pointing out people’s mistakes and letting them feel guilty about them. But organically if people reject you for your flaws it’s their shortcomings and not yours.
You know when we commit a mistake or when we have done something wrong the solution is the realization and the improvement in our behaviour. But what happens, in reality, is that we are demeaned in front of people, our flaws are pointed out and that makes us feel devalued and humiliated.
We reach a stage where we feel that we are not capable of receiving any kind of love, we are unlovable.
Our flaws overtake the power of our sanity.
We start to feel underconfident, unloved and pathetic about our own selves.
This leads to self-hate.
This stage in our life will come and go but it’s not an easy phase to deal with. This is when we have the opportunity in our hands that let go of all the allegations, and judgements and believe in our power oneself.
We need to realize that not every time people will understand us, there are a lot of times when we will be miss understood and that doesn’t mean that we are wrong.
Being different doesn’t mean being wrong.
What Matters the Most?
The intention in your heart should be pure and natural. When you are good at heart there are high chances that people will misunderstand you and they will question your actions.
There would be times when you would feel that you are not able to express yourself in front of anyone, and you will simply wish to give up but that’s the time when you need to support who you are.
The truth is that all of us have flaws and we all commit mistakes we should try to improve ourselves and with time evolve and grow.
Self-love is when you like the way you are, not just emotionally but physically too.
You love your body and accept it as a place which is very important for your survival.
You value your emotions even when others don’t and most importantly you don’t apologise for being yourself. You do not wish to change for the sake of others but you try to learn from your mistakes.
Self-Love v/s Feeling of Superiority
There is a thin line between loving yourself and assuming yourself to be superior. You should be in the stage of accepting your mistakes but not overpowering others in the process of self-love.
We all should love our choices, our dreams and aspirations and also the way we talk and behave.
When we love ourselves the vision to see the World changes and we start to look for positivity.
Written by- Prabhveet Kaur
Edited by- Nidhi Jha
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