In a world where a person's worth is measured in terms of money, fame, power, etc. any person who has none or thinks has nothing enough of these, shows how despised and unwanted 'failure' is in our lives.
Everything we do, we do with a goal, an objective in mind. But on the same hand, we have backup plans to avoid the 'what if it doesn't work out the question. This is not only a question of mere comfort or a safety blanket. It’s the generational and societal meaning of failure embedded into our minds.
One needs to realize that he is not going to have a 'failure-free' life. Failure is an inevitable part of one's journey and accepting that fact not only makes it easier to move past it but also to experience it fully like a part of life.
1. No One Is Perfect
Have you ever played a game for the first and become the best player in the town? Have you ever taken up a new math class and become a genius in that half hour? Have you ever tried something new and mastered it on the first try? The answer will always be no.
No one, in the history of the world, has ever been so perfect to get things right in the first go. The greatest of legends were claimed as failures when they began their journeys. Such legends are now taken as inspiration, but no one ever wishes to go through the struggle they did.
Failure is never a sign to stop and take a different direction. Because taking a different direction won’t change the fact that failure might even greet you there. Failure is simply a sign that you need to improve yourself, develop certain skills, practice a little more, and so on.
If failure was a big stop sign, maybe you would have never gotten up after falling when you were trying to walk for the first time. Maybe you would have given up trying to learn to ride a bicycle when you fell and got hurt. The most basic things also included failure, like cooking a dish for the first time.
But we tend to exaggerate the professional, academic, and relationship failures, and downplay the kitchen and driving failures. But what if we treated these two kinds of failures equally?
Like getting up after falling from a bike is said to be natural, why not study after failing a test is natural? Similarly, if a redo of a painting is said to be easy and normal, why not re-defining your relationship terms is said to be normal?
Failure is a way of destiny to give you a wake-up call; about what're doing right and what you're doing wrong.
2. Where Growth Happens
Success stories are mostly a compilation of big and small failures of one's life. Ever wondered why? Why can the success stories be just about all the achievements and why can't the people just skip to the good part? Look within and answer, will a story of all wins and no fail inspire anyone?
When success greets us, we hardly learn anything from it. Success is simply an example of 'what we did was right and not 'we look forward to improving it. In most cases, success is a full-stop, where the story ends.
But as for failure, failure is where the growth of character, intelligence, and knowledge truly happens. Failure tends to become an example of 'what we did was not right, but we want to look for new ways to do it. That change in attitude, development in character, all of that happens after a failure.
Success makes one arrogant and over-confident, whereas failure makes one humble and welcoming. A person who has never encountered failure, never truly realizes how precious success is. And when that person looks back to reflect, he doesn't reflect on the memories of that achievement, but always on memories of various failures he faced.
Even as a listener, our motivators are mostly those people that rose above all their failures, and met success at last. Because failures give success its true meaning and value.
3. Let Life Happen
The biggest stress reliever in this world per cent leave it all to destiny and just keep doing what we do best. When the responsibility and accountability lie on the universe's shoulders, our shoulders feel light enough to work and learn more.
The said destiny (for all those who believe in it) always has a plan that is almost impossible to escape. The plan is the whole package of ups and downs, highs and lows, easy and hard. What we can do best, is to be ready for whatever destiny brings out a way.
That's where learning from unwanted situations comes. If destiny threw something unprecedented in your path, it's either to test you or improve you. But it's not to communicate the idea of giving up and stopping trying to do anything.
Simply a part of life, failure comes our way sooner or later. No person has a hundred per cent track record with all gold medals. Everyone has their share of failures, and that's what makes their life journey unique and exciting. Imagine a movie with no twists and turns, just a simple plot followed by a simple ending. It sure doesn't sound like that much fun.
So, welcome your life's twists and turns, embrace them and become a better human after every single one of them.
Written by – Simran Mahon
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